You want to be there for your aging adult and you know that she needs the help. But her response might just shock you. If you’re wondering why your elderly family member won’t accept your help, these explanations might help.
She Honestly Doesn’t Believe She Needs It.
Many aging adults truly don’t believe that they need any additional help. they’ve been going about their lives for years, decades even, without help and they’re fine. So it stands to reason, from their point of view, as if life will continue on in exactly the same manner. Unfortunately, your senior’s needs can change dramatically and she may find that she needs way more help than she realizes.
She’s Embarrassed to Need Help.
On the other hand, your aging adult may be well aware that she needs extra assistance. It’s not always easy to ask for that help, though, or to accept it when it’s offered. Your elderly family member may be embarrassed about needing assistance from anyone, especially you. Keeping the help that you provide low-key can help quite a bit if this is holding your senior back.
She’s Not Sure You Can Help Her.
There are other problems, possibly. Your senior may realize that she needs help, but she might not be so sure you can follow through on your offer. This isn’t necessarily a reflection on your true abilities, but how she sees the situation. Making sure that you’ve got what you need can help with this. You might want to consider hiring senior care providers who have the experience to make your senior feel more at ease.
She’s Sure this Means She’s Not Going to Stay Independent.
One big reason your senior might refuse your help is that she might believe that any acceptance on her part means that she’s now giving up all semblance of independence. That doesn’t have to be the case, no matter how much help she needs. The best way to prove this misconception wrong is to do everything that you can to preserve as much of your senior’s independence as you can.
Once you understand why your elderly family member is turning down your help, you can put steps in place to correct any issues. Your aging adult will see your commitment to solving the problem and hopefully reconsider.
If you or an aging loved one are considering senior care in Meyerland, TX, contact the caring staff at Personal Caregiving Services at 832-564-0338. Providing Care in Houston, Bellaire, West University Place, Katy, and Sugar Land and the surrounding areas.
In 1989 after selling his family owned food service business, Mr. Gerber pursued his compassion for the elderly by completing his geriatric education and training requirements to be a licensed nursing home administrator (LNFA) from the University of Texas Health Science Center at Houston.Previously he received his undergraduate business degree from the University of Texas at Austin and his Masters in business administration (MBA) from the University of Houston.In 2003, Mr. Gerber earned his Certification to be a Senior Advisor (CSA).
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