When your loved one gets to a point at which she’s no longer safe behind the wheel of her car, you’re going to be the one to handle that as her family caregiver. The problem is that the emotional fallout from that decision can be brutal.
Keep Your Loved One’s Feelings about Driving in Mind.
You might think that your loved one doesn’t have any feelings about driving, but you might be surprised. There’s a grieving process that will happen with this decision and it’s important to respect that process and your loved one’s feelings. Be sympathetic, but don’t let that sympathy rule what you do.
Don’t Argue, but Offer Solutions.
Your loved one might fight back when you bring up this conversation, but arguing isn’t going to get either of you anywhere. Let your loved one know that you’re not happy about the situation, either, but that her safety is most important. Let her know what her new transportation options are and make sure that she has access to transportation whenever she needs it. For some loved ones, that can mean hiring elderly care providers for companionship and for transportation when a whim to go somewhere hits.
Some family caregivers make the mistake of tying the ability to drive in to their loved one’s behavior or other actions. So, on a good day, they might tell their loved one that they have earned permission to drive. This sends conflicting messages because the ability to drive isn’t something that’s tied to your loved one’s behavior. It’s about her safety. Once you remove the ability for your loved one to drive, it stays gone.
Stay Strong in the Face of Objections.
Your loved one might not be the only one to object to her losing her ability to drive. Even if you’re her primary family caregiver, other family members may feel that they need to say something on her behalf. Explain to them why your loved one doesn’t need to be driving and stay firm about the decision. Waffling now can lead to your loved one finding ways around your decision.
No one likes being told that they can no longer do something, especially your elderly loved one. Handle the conversation as delicately and sympathetically as you can.
If you or an aging loved one are considering caregiver services in Houston, TX, contact the caring staff at Personal Caregiving Services at 832-564-0338. Providing Care in Houston, Bellaire, West University Place, Katy, and Sugar Land and the surrounding areas.
In 1989 after selling his family owned food service business, Mr. Gerber pursued his compassion for the elderly by completing his geriatric education and training requirements to be a licensed nursing home administrator (LNFA) from the University of Texas Health Science Center at Houston.Previously he received his undergraduate business degree from the University of Texas at Austin and his Masters in business administration (MBA) from the University of Houston.In 2003, Mr. Gerber earned his Certification to be a Senior Advisor (CSA).
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